Ten Ways to be an Awesome Wedding Guest

Hey there, party people! Are you ready to don your dancing shoes, raise a toast, and celebrate love in the most awesome way possible? Well, you’ve come to the right place! Today we’re diving into what it means to be the ultimate wedding guest extraordinaire.  Your friends or family members are taking the leap into forever, and it’s time to step up and make their special day go smoothly and be full of memories they’ll treasure forever. So let’s explore our top 10 fabulous ways to be the most awesome wedding guest ever! Get ready for the love, laughter, and priceless memories!


1 – RSVP on time.

Wedding planning has a lot of moving parts.  There are deadlines for venues, caterers, florists, calligraphers, etc. So, the date they’ve requested on the RSVP card is there for a reason! You can start being a great guest weeks before ever setting foot at the wedding by sending in your RSVP promptly. This alleviates so much stress on the couple!


2- Follow the dress code and dress appropriately for the occasion.

Black tie? Cocktail? Garden party? Barn? Each style of wedding has an appropriate attire. You would dress differently for each one, so make sure your clothing matches the vibe of the event. Also, consider your footwear. If the wedding is on the beach, for example, you might choose to skip the stilettos. Or if it’s all outdoors in October, bring a sweater or shawl to keep warm. 

Bride and groom kiss surrounded by bridal party on the beach at destination wedding at Secrets Akumal Riviera Maya

3- Respect the couple’s wishes regarding an unplugged ceremony

Oftentimes, you’ll see a sign at the back of the ceremony asking for an “unplugged ceremony” or requesting certain guests to sit on a certain side. Or there may be rows marked with “reserved” signs. Please respect these requests and follow what the couple is asking. And just for the sake of clarification, an “unplugged ceremony” means they’re requesting that guests put away all phones, tablets, cameras, etc during the ceremony and just enjoy the moment. They’ve paid a professional photographer to be there, and ask that you trust them to do their job!

4- Be present and engaged during the ceremony.

Avoid distractions like phones or excessive talking. The ceremony is generally the quickest part of the entire day, and we promise, you can sit undistracted (without your phone) for 20 minutes! You’ve got this! Even if it goes long, the ceremony is such a special time of the day for the couple, it is important to treat it with respect and reverence. After all, they are promising their lives to one another! It’s a pretty big deal.

A Lakeshore Vineyard wedding

5- Respect the couple’s chosen seating arrangements.

Spend cocktail hour and dancing time hanging out and mingling with all the other guests. But if there is a seating chart, make sure to respect their arrangements during dinner and toasts. They’ve likely spent endless hours painstakingly arranging and rearranging names on tables, and there’s a reason they’ve made those choices. So, grab a drink, mingle at the bar, and head back to your assigned table to enjoy your dinner and conversation. Who knows? You may meet your new best friend!   

6- Capture memorable moments respectfully.

If you want to be the most awesome wedding guest, don’t get in the way of the professional photographers and videographers. We know you love capturing priceless memories almost as much as we do, and we have no problem with guests hanging out during some of the group photo time. But sometimes we’ll ask for some space or even for privacy from all guests. So, remember that it’s great to capture photos on your phone or camera, but please give the pros a little space, and even ask before you move in on their moment. 

7- Follow the couple’s lead during speeches and toasts.

Some couples want an open mic, allowing any and all guests to have the chance to publicly congratulate them. And others prefer to stick to one or two speeches. Your job as a guest is to go with the flow of the night, raise your glass when it’s time, and offer congratulations if appropriate. Remember, it’s their day!

Groom dancing alone during Greek traditional dollar dance at Quincy Cellars reception

8- Participate in wedding activities.

More than likely, a lot of thought went into that super fun photo booth, hot chocolate bar, DJ playlist, giant Jenga, bounce house, cigar bar, or any of the other incredibly cool reception entertainment ideas we’ve seen! The wedding couple invited you to their big day because they want you to be a part of it, have fun, and make some amazing memories. So, make those memories!  

Bride and groom dancing together at wedding reception at Majestic Woods

9- Drink enough to have fun, but not enough to cause a scene!

We hope this one doesn’t feel like a downer, but it really is important. Open bars are fun, we get it! But drinking excessively can mean you don’t remember the night and quite possibly you’ll be remembered in a way you’d rather not! And always, always, always have a designated driver plan. Whether that’s a friend, Uber, a party bus, or another arrangement, be smart and get home safe!

10 – Thank the couple for inviting you to be a part of their special day.

Before you leave for the night, make sure you wish the lucky couple congratulations and thank them for asking you to be a part of their day. They love you enough to add you to their guest list, so make sure you return the love with gratitude and well wishes. 

As we wrap up this whirlwind of wedding wisdom, we hope you’re feeling inspired and ready to embark on your next wedding adventure armed with all the tools to be the most awesome wedding guest ever! Remember, weddings are all about celebrating love and creating memories that will be cherished for a lifetime. By following this list of advice, you’ll help add to the joy and magic of the day. So go forth, dance like nobody’s watching, and toast to the beautiful union before you. Your friends will forever be grateful for your genuine presence and the priceless memories you help create. Cheers to being the ultimate wedding guest, and here’s to love, laughter, and happily ever afters!

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